Why Indian Pakistani men should live in a Joint Family System

With the recent onslaught of articles against Joint Family system where a newly-wed woman is expected to live with her in-laws after the marriage on various blogs including most famously Express Tribune, I find it imperative to come to the defense of this age old and somewhat looked down upon practice in the name of Rationality. 

Your mother would be quick to put the whole talk to end by telling you that this is all due to those cursed TV soap operas (she herself watches all the time) which has put this decay in our otherwise fine social fabric. But the fact of the matter remains that yes it is due to this excessive exposure to Indian dramas, where the modest fight extends around problem of 100000 Cror transaction between two otherwise pretty middle-class looking people and modern Sleeve-less-fair-skin-girls-in-dramas-shot-in-Lahore-and-Karachi based on weird suppositions, which has turned the whole mantra of society upside down.Continue reading

The Great Migration

On this 65th Independence day of Pakistan when everyone is in a jubilant mood, patriotic songs which many deemed paindo (villager-taste) are blaring out on every Radio and TV channel, while some armchair-Internet-pundits are discussing the relevance of Pakistaniat and Government is as usual busy doing everything but Nation-building. Makes me wonder how many of us still remember what Pakistan meant for our elders? Here are just three stories among countless others which personally touched me.

First story is of my Maternal Grandfather who until 1947 was a relatively successful businessman in Amritsar (now Indian Punjab). Being informed about political dynamics, he was smart enough to safely move all his family before time to the present Pakistan. Being one of the last to reach Pakistan amongst his family, he witnessed first hand how friendships were tested and how centuries of connection were lost in mere moments.Continue reading

Somewhere in 2000 I am rushing to mosque for Zuhr (afternoon) prayers, I grab few friends with me as I know it is a good deed to invite more people to a noble cause. Especially calling those you love to the right path; after will you like your younger brother burning in hell fire?

I notice there is a man with long beard, wearing army camouflage jacket with a lean-slender physique in the first row just behind the Imam (prayer leader). After prayer the Imam announces that a Commander has joined us today and will like Continue reading