Why Indian Pakistani men should live in a Joint Family System

With the recent onslaught of articles against Joint Family system where a newly-wed woman is expected to live with her in-laws after the marriage on various blogs including most famously Express Tribune, I find it imperative to come to the defense of this age old and somewhat looked down upon practice in the name of Rationality. 

Your mother would be quick to put the whole talk to end by telling you that this is all due to those cursed TV soap operas (she herself watches all the time) which has put this decay in our otherwise fine social fabric. But the fact of the matter remains that yes it is due to this excessive exposure to Indian dramas, where the modest fight extends around problem of 100000 Cror transaction between two otherwise pretty middle-class looking people and modern Sleeve-less-fair-skin-girls-in-dramas-shot-in-Lahore-and-Karachi based on weird suppositions, which has turned the whole mantra of society upside down.Continue reading

The Muslim beard paradox: tale of my beard

I always knew that one day I will keep beard, even when I was a little kid. When during my 8th grade I made my first website even then it was based around a man’s bearded face with navigation buttons around it. And no it wasn’t that I was influenced by my surrounding. My father is still a clean shaven man – and before me I cannot even recall cousin or Uncle who kept a beard.

Though I wasn’t “born” with a beard but started shaving as soon as I got a few hair on my face, like a ritual to enter the adulthood while my father trying to tell me that hey you can avoid few more years of misery if you stop shaving and just stick with a trimmer. But well a boy needs to do things his way to be a man. It was only quite later when I finally realised for myself what an annoying cycle it becomes to shave every morning.

Around end of my second semester during my undergraduate I decided to keep a goatee (to be told that I look like a Qadiyani!), then a line beard (to be told that I look like a Jew!) to finally a proper small beard (to get more criticism). The series of misplaced criticism including on my small beard was that it is not good enough – the length is short and I should be keeping a longer beard, at least a fistful! Interestingly the criticism on my hair which cover my face always came from people who were clean shaven and practically had no experience of keeping a beard. Perhaps even more interestingly one of the Continue reading