Why Indian Pakistani men should live in a Joint Family System

With the recent onslaught of articles against Joint Family system where a newly-wed woman is expected to live with her in-laws after the marriage on various blogs including most famously Express Tribune, I find it imperative to come to the defense of this age old and somewhat looked down upon practice in the name of Rationality. 

Your mother would be quick to put the whole talk to end by telling you that this is all due to those cursed TV soap operas (she herself watches all the time) which has put this decay in our otherwise fine social fabric. But the fact of the matter remains that yes it is due to this excessive exposure to Indian dramas, where the modest fight extends around problem of 100000 Cror transaction between two otherwise pretty middle-class looking people and modern Sleeve-less-fair-skin-girls-in-dramas-shot-in-Lahore-and-Karachi based on weird suppositions, which has turned the whole mantra of society upside down.Continue reading

peshawar attack

Last Sunday as Churchgoers were coming out from the service for many, their world came to a standstill. Just outside the gates of the Church two bombs, designed to inflict maximum damage to the people around, exploded. Over 80 innocent people and passerby lost their lives and many more injured. However this is not the first time the Pakistani Christian minority has faced such a brutality and unfortunately they are not the only minority at the receiving end of the barrel for this monstrosity which has engulfed the country. With so many issues to deal with my argument for this post will however remain only about the Pakistani Christians.Continue reading

The Great Migration

On this 65th Independence day of Pakistan when everyone is in a jubilant mood, patriotic songs which many deemed paindo (villager-taste) are blaring out on every Radio and TV channel, while some armchair-Internet-pundits are discussing the relevance of Pakistaniat and Government is as usual busy doing everything but Nation-building. Makes me wonder how many of us still remember what Pakistan meant for our elders? Here are just three stories among countless others which personally touched me.

First story is of my Maternal Grandfather who until 1947 was a relatively successful businessman in Amritsar (now Indian Punjab). Being informed about political dynamics, he was smart enough to safely move all his family before time to the present Pakistan. Being one of the last to reach Pakistan amongst his family, he witnessed first hand how friendships were tested and how centuries of connection were lost in mere moments.Continue reading

Dude where is the woman in Islam?

If Islam is the perfect religious and social model of life with high emphasis on fairness for all, where does it go when it comes to the women? To an outsider and thinking insiders, Islam today dictates a patriarchal society where women take a back seat in every regard while being reminded that it is for their own good. Women are easily objectified and are without hesitation compared with walking piece of meat if not properly dressed and termed as the reason for Man’s temptation. She cannot travel without permission and custodian, but worse of all does not have equal access to legal system as in case of Rape which unfortunately even to this date is not defined in religious jurisprudence and falls in the category of adultery.

It is easy for anyone to be repulsed by these things and it is even rightly so what should be expected out of any sane person, because this does hint at a very serious problem in Muslim world – the disappearance of women from Religious life.

To understand what has happened let us take it from the start. Islam comes in the time when women did not have any rights, access to inheritance, even other two Abrahamic religion were not in favour of divorce and especially in region Continue reading

Somewhere in 2000 I am rushing to mosque for Zuhr (afternoon) prayers, I grab few friends with me as I know it is a good deed to invite more people to a noble cause. Especially calling those you love to the right path; after will you like your younger brother burning in hell fire?

I notice there is a man with long beard, wearing army camouflage jacket with a lean-slender physique in the first row just behind the Imam (prayer leader). After prayer the Imam announces that a Commander has joined us today and will like Continue reading